Patience is not a virtue -at least not for me. Whoever coined that phrase, in a way, has destroyed my earlier life ha! It shaped a mindset I no longer fully agree with.
Let me give a simple example. If you are extremely hungry, would you cook something, order food, or sit around waiting for something better to happen? Obviously, you take action. You don’t wait. In my view, the mind should operate similarly in most areas of life-whether professional or personal.
For a long time, I used to wait for the “perfect” opportunity. I would convince myself that I needed to be more patient in order to land the perfect job or meet the right person. But often, those opportunities never came. And by the time I revisited what I once ignored, those doors were already closed.
That said, I’m not suggesting lowering your standards or settling for less. Rather, it’s about engaging with the opportunities in front of you while still aiming higher. You never know-something you once overlooked as “too small” might be the very place where something greater begins.
The same applies to relationships. We often tell ourselves, “I’m not ready yet” or “I need to fix my health, finances, or mental state before I reach out.” But what is a “better position,” really? What feels right for you may already be more than enough for someone else. And there’s also no guarantee that the person you’re waiting for will still be available when you decide you’re finally ready.
In my twenties, I tried living by the idea that patience was everything. But over time, I realized my life aligned more with action than waiting. I did experience moments that reinforced this belief- for example, being rejected from a job interview only to find something better shortly after. But I don’t attribute that to waiting patiently; I attribute it to continuously applying, showing up, and taking initiative.
That’s why I’ve come to live by a different principle: “Rejection is divine protection.” Instead of waiting passively, I keep taking action, trusting that what is meant for me will respond in its own way.
I also believe people enter our lives for different reasons. Some stay briefly to teach us lessons, some reshape our worldview, and others profoundly transform us. The same applies to experiences and events-we don’t always understand them in the moment, but they often carry meaning in hindsight.
I’ve also had experiences that I can’t fully explain through logic alone, despite being someone who values reason and evidence. One such incident happened in my childhood. I was around five or six, traveling by train with open windows when I was struck by a sharp object. I was severely injured, lost a significant amount of blood, and became unconscious. My father pulled the emergency chain, and we were taken to a remote area where there was no proper hospital nearby. Instead, I was treated in a small local dispensary, where I was stitched without anesthesia. Somehow, I survived and recovered, when I should be dead! To this day, I cannot fully explain why.
Another incident occurred in my twenties when I was working long shifts and driving at around 2 a.m., exhausted and nearly falling asleep at the wheel. I suddenly woke up to a loud impact-the car had crashed into a roadside barrier, and the airbags deployed. The vehicle was completely destroyed. Emergency services arrived quickly, and I was taken to the ER, but remarkably, I had no major injuries-only minor scratches.
There have been several moments like these in my life that make me question simple logic. I don’t say this to complain, but rather to acknowledge that not everything can be easily explained. If you simply go by logic, I should have been dead by now!
Over time, I feel my intuition has become stronger-like a muscle that develops with use. And it consistently pushes me toward action, not delay. I try to balance this by letting my heart guide direction while allowing my mind to structure the steps, so I don’t act impulsively.
This same intuition has influenced my career decisions. I’ve applied to roles where even the interviewers seemed unsure why I was there, often thinking I was overqualified. But if I ever believed I was “too good” for something, I simply wouldn’t apply in the first place. I follow the pull toward what feels right.
The same applies to relationships and creative expression. I don’t believe we meet people by coincidence. Some are temporary, some are transformative, and some stay longer for reasons we may only understand later.
Even my writing comes from this intuitive space. I often write about women empowerment, and I want to be clear that I am not a man-hater. I also have male friends who share similar values, often because they deeply love and respect the women in their lives-whether their mothers, wives, or daughters. I believe that when someone genuinely holds that respect, they are more likely to understand the intent behind my perspective, even if they don’t always agree with it.
I believe energy and connection are real in the sense that people naturally gravitate toward those who share similar values and perspectives. Whether one frames it spiritually or scientifically, everything is ultimately made up of energy and matter at a fundamental level.
So I’ve learned not to wait endlessly for the “perfect” moment. Instead, I choose to act, engage with what’s available, and grow within it while continuing to move toward something greater. Sometimes, what seems small at first becomes the foundation for something far bigger.
Just my two cents-until next time, I’ll see you in my next blog.
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